The face is determined by the heart's personality

In modern society, people have more and more communication, life and work circles are getting bigger and bigger, and the frequency of interacting with strangers is getting higher and higher. So in these interpersonal interactions, we will find that some people’s first impression is that you When you see it, you are willing to associate with them, or to make people willing to be close, which means "pleasant to see", and after getting in touch with others, you will feel disgusted, which means "not happy to see." Maybe we don't have more time to get to know a person, so to a large extent our understanding of the other person comes from walking, sitting, lying, talking and deporting, which together are a person's "phase".

The following content is selected from "The Buddhist Sutra of Karma Reporting Differences": There are ten karma again. Can make sentient beings get ugly. One is good to be angry. The two resent each other. The three confuse him. The four are annoyed by sentient beings. The five are in the hands of their parents and have no love and respect. The six are not respectful in the Xian Sanctuary. The seven invaded the virtuous and sage bourgeois fields. Eight of them turned off the lights at the pagoda temple. Nine see the ugly, ruin and despise. Ten are accustomed to evil deeds. So it is the ten professions. Got ugly newspaper.

There are ten industries. Can make sentient beings get right. No one is angry. Both apply clothes. The three respect their parents. The four respect the sages. Five paint the stupa. The six sweep the hall. Seven sweep the monk's land. Eight sweep the stupa. Seeing the ugly, the nine will not be humble and respectful. The ten see the correct one, understand the cause. So it is the ten professions. It must be correct.

Combining with ourselves, let’s briefly explain that “karma” refers to every good or evil act we do, like various colors, which will continue to be diffused into our lives, waiting for the outer edge. Induced and sprouted growth is just like planting in the soil, waiting for the induction of sunlight, air, and water to sprout and grow. This is called karma in Buddhists. The creation of karma is the cause of the current karma, and the current karma is the result of the karma, that is, "retribution." This is what we often call cause and effect. Once we understand this, we can understand when we look back at this passage. ——This is the wisdom of the Buddha.

"Book of Rites•University": "The ancient desires to clarify the virtues of the world, first rule their country; those who want to rule their country, first align their family; those who want to align their family, cultivate their own body first; those who want to cultivate their own body, First correct one's heart; those who want to correct one's heart, first sincere their will; those who want to be sincere, first know their knowledge, and knowledge is in the study of things. The matter and then the knowledge, the knowledge and then the sincerity, the sincerity and then the heart, the heart After the body is cultivated, the body is cultivated and then the family is together, the family is together and then the country is governed, and the country is governed by the world." It means to clear one's mind by lowering one's desires and reducing one's greed, so that the right and wrong are clear. After the righteous thoughts are clear, you must strive to be sincere in all aspects of dealing with people and affairs, and strive to cut off evil and cultivate goodness. As time passes, your self-cultivation will rise and you will become wise. With wisdom, governing the home, the country, and the world is not a problem. ——This is the wisdom of Confucianism.

In modern society, people’s living conditions are getting better and better, and their desire to pursue beauty and external images is constantly increasing, and the external appearance, shape and temperament that a person truly expresses are all from the heart and the action. , Chinese traditional culture for thousands of years, whether it is Confucianism, Buddhism, Taoism or the classic family precepts and ancient precepts handed down by the people, all start from the heart. Only by cultivating the mind can we speak and act properly and behave properly. Therefore, if we one-sidedly pursue the outside world The manifestation of the present without ignoring the spiritual practice is to abandon the original and follow the last, and seek fish from the tree.

In this way, we should let ourselves be happy, sunny, tolerant, dignified, and full of positive energy. If friends observe carefully, this kind of person tends to make people feel close and trusting. Even if this kind of person is not outstanding, it will certainly not be disgusting. Such a person is "good temperament" in modern terms. ". Starting from the eyes, to the face to the whole body, a person reveals his life state and reveals his spiritual realm, while the form is born from the heart and repays by the action.

Each of us has our own characteristics and is in a different environment. The important thing is to understand ourselves first. Many people seldom look at themselves squarely, rarely analyze their own strengths and weaknesses, and correct their own words and deeds in a targeted manner. But this is precisely the most important foundation that affects the quality of life, affects family happiness, and affects success. Cultivating the mind, self-cultivation, and behavior will all bring us good luck. Our speech, behavior, and behavior habits will affect our luck. Paying more attention to our own bad habits and changing them can increase our luck and blessings. There are many factors that affect a person's fortune. As long as we are clear-headed, able to accept good faith, and dared to correct our bad ailments and get rid of our bad habits, we will surely be lucky.

The traditional Chinese concept of "heart" includes the brain. The "Huangdi Neijing" says: "The heart is the official of the monarch, and the gods come out." The so-called "shen" refers to the human mind and consciousness, and this is the function of the human brain, which means that the traditional Chinese concept of "heart" It contains the functions of the human brain. The concept of "heart" in physiological anatomy came from the West. When it was translated, the Chinese character "心" was chosen, but this heart is no longer the other heart. Due to the relationship of education, modern people know this heart more but not the other heart, but say that the other heart is my heart, which is absurd!

The human eye is an optical instrument. The round, square, flat, tall, short, black, white, and red things we can see are all light that is zoomed and projected to the retina through our eyes. In the upper imaging, this image stimulates the visual cells to produce brain waves and then transmits them to the cerebral cortex, so we "feel" the image. In other words, the "image" we "see" is not the object itself, but the image indirectly generated by the "heart" that we "perceive" (it's just that this process takes a very short time and we can't perceive it), In general concepts, these "images" are called "phases", so there is the saying that "phases are born from the heart". Why does the "Diamond Sutra" say: "All the phenomena are false"? Because from the perspective of "the appearance is born from the heart", the appearances are essentially just "brain waves".

After the sixth ancestor of Zen Huineng got the Dharma in Huangmei, he went to Faxing Temple in Guangzhou, where Master Yinzong lectured on the "Nirvana Sutra". Sometimes the wind blows the flag, one monk says the wind moves, and the other monk says the flag moves. There is endless discussion, and Hui Neng enters. Said: "It's not the wind, nor the flag, but the heart of the benevolent." Why did the six ancestors say that it is "heartbeat", because "the heart is born from the heart," and the heart is moved by each other. The Sixth Patriarch said that it was not the movement of the wind, it was not the movement of the flag, and it did not deny the movement of the wind or the movement of the flag. Instead, after “enlightening” to the higher level of understanding that the final movement is the “heart movement”, they passed those two immovability. To emphasize and highlight the “extreme” movement is the heartbeat. Otherwise, if the wind does not move, how does the flag move? If the flag does not move, how does the heart move? If there was a monk A and 99 other ordinary people listening to the Fa at that time, A said that no matter how the wind moves, how does the flag move, his heart will not move. , Suddenly, a thunderstorm came down from the sky, and Jia's skull was torn apart. Jia's "heart" was definitely not moving, but the wind was still moving, the flag was still moving, and the hearts of the 99 people were still moving.

The face is determined by the heart's personality

Any blessing has its inevitable cause, just as wealth comes from charity, and honor comes from humility, and a beautiful face comes from a gentle and kind temperament.

After a person reaches middle age, he will show his appearance caused by the influence of his character in the world.

Most generous people have a blessed face, while those with a soft temperament have a soft and beautiful face.

People with extraordinarily rude personality always have a fierce look; many middle-aged and elderly women with poor conduct tend to have a mean look on their faces. This is the so-called haughty look and kefu look.

In fact, it is not the appearance of birth, but the projection of long-term cultivation of mind and behavior on the face. These appearances also indicate their future destiny.

Xiangshu is also a kind of experience accumulation, which is born from the heart, from the face to the heart, and from the heart to know the future.

So what are the causes of appearance in childhood, adolescence, and youth?

The appearance characteristics are related to the genetic factors of the parents, the face shape and body shape are related to the innate temperament received, and the degree of beauty is caused by the habits brought by the previous life.

The first half of a person's life is under the influence of the previous life, and the second half of his life is more under the influence of the first half of his life.

Therefore, after middle age, people have to be responsible for their own faces.

Compassion is also a particularly important factor.

People who are more caring often exude a kind of extraordinary brilliance from the inside out, which makes people more and more pleasing to the eye, and more and more like to come into contact with them.

People who are too selfish, cunning, and caress are very impatient, even ugly. Even if you are lucky enough to have a good appearance, some undesirable features will gradually appear on your face, such as a lack of amiable face, just "pleasing to the eye at first sight," and a little more contact will be unattractive.

Please believe that your appearance can be changed gradually, especially a beautiful appearance will exude a kind of attraction from the inside out, making the viewer admire it unconsciously.

In many cases, beauty is born from the heart of the person who sees it. This is the truth that "beauty appears in the eyes of a lover".

Therefore, if you want to be beautiful, you must first be spiritual!

1. People who are willing to suffer losses will not suffer losses after all. Those who can suffer, the popularity is bound to be good, and those who are good will naturally have more opportunities. It is enough to seize one or two opportunities in a person's life!

2. People who love to take advantage of it cannot take advantage of it after all. They pick up a grass and lose a piece of forest. Look at those smart people who go to the bathroom as soon as they pay the bill or can't get out their wallets for a long time. Basically, they have nothing to do.

Third, the world is a big deal for the small-minded. When a friend gathers, the person who does not leave himself and his family in three words is the reincarnation of a snail, with a hollow and selfish heart. Only his own business was in his mind, and other things gradually became irrelevant to him.

Fourth, only by cherishing the fate can the fate continue. On the way of life, we will meet a lot of people. In fact, we can get together only if we are destined. Most of our relatives are friends in the previous life, and most of our friends are relatives in the previous life. Most of the troubles you bring to you are those who hurt you in the previous life. So remember!! Be kind to your relatives, care about your friends, and forgive those who hurt you. This is cause and effect.

5. Being rich in the heart is called rich, and is called expensive by others. Happiness is not a character, but an ability.

6. The best way to solve worries is to forget them.

Seven, smile at the wind and clouds, when sitting in front of the clouds. Not fighting is compassion, not arguing is wisdom, not hearing is purity, not seeing is freedom, forgiveness is liberation, contentment is letting go.

8. Don't mess with your heart, don't get caught up in emotions, don't fear the future, don't think about the past.

9. This life is destined for us to take nothing away, so live in the present, laugh in the present, and realize the present!

You are born from the heart: You are responsible for your appearance after the age of 40

Judging people by their appearance is a disdainful guideline for many people, but Lincoln's behavior speaks out the principle of "coming from one's heart to each other." From a scientific point of view, how much scientific basis is there for the argument that "combination is born from the heart"?

Once, Lincoln personally interviewed an applicant, but did not hire that person. When the staff asked him the reason, he declared grandly: "I don't like his looks!" The staff asked very puzzledly: "Is it his fault if a person grows badly?" Lincoln replied, "One A person’s face before the age of 40 is determined by his parents, but his face after the age of 40 is determined by himself. He is responsible for his appearance after the age of 40."

What is in your mind, what are you like

There is such a short story: a former sculptor with superb craftsmanship, he very much likes to sculpt Yasha and all kinds of monsters, and the sculptures are vivid. But one day when he was looking in the mirror, he suddenly found that his face was getting uglier and uglier. Ugly does not mean that the skin color and facial features have changed, but that the expression and manners have become cunning, vicious, and weird. So he visited famous doctors all over the place, but there was no cure.

Later, by chance, when he was visiting a temple, he told the elders of the temple about his difficulties. The elder said, I can cure your disease, but I can't cure you in vain. You must do a little work for me first by sculpting several statues of Guanyin with different looks. After hearing this, the sculptor accepted this condition. Since Guanyin is the embodiment of kindness, kindness, gentleness, tolerance, and integrity in Chinese traditional culture, the sculptor has also constantly studied and pondered the moral expression of Guanyin in the process of shaping. Constantly imitating the expression of Guanyin, reaching the level of selflessness.

Gradually, he was pleasantly surprised to find that his appearance had become refreshed, upright and solemn. He thanked the elder for curing his illness. The elder said, no, your illness was cured by yourself.

Emotions affect neurotransmitters, which in turn change the appearance of people

Maybe this story is a little bit magical, but it vividly tells the truth of "coming from one's heart". Director He of the Department of Psychology of a certain hospital believes, “The reason why a person’s psychology is related to his appearance is because the current medical belief is that a person’s psychological change is a change of emotion, and emotion itself affects a person’s nerves on the one hand. Transmitters are what we usually call hormones. Changes in the concentration of neurotransmitters will also affect people’s emotions, which are a kind of mutual influence. When we have emotions, the concentration of neurotransmitters will also change. When the concentration of the substance changes, our facial expressions will also change. For example, when a person is angry, the face will show a fierce glow. This phenomenon is explained from a medical point of view, that is, when the brain encounters a stimulus, it will have an emotional response, resulting in neurotransmitter concentration. The brain will produce impulses, and the muscles that dominate us will change, such as muscle contraction and relaxation, which presents looks or expressions."

However, the understanding of "coming from the heart" cannot be absolute. The phrase "coming from the heart" should be a summary of people's daily life experience. Human appearance has a certain relationship with psychology. From a scientific point of view, it should be a correlation, but it cannot be said to be inevitability. "A person's psychological changes do have a certain impact on a person's appearance, but one cannot infer that the person's appearance is like this, and one can draw conclusions about his psychological condition. There is no inevitability between the two."

For example, we see people in the so-called "underworld" who have been in a vicious state for a long time, and their muscles have been in a state of contraction for a long time, and they will have a fierce appearance. But we cannot say in reverse that if a person looks fierce, he must be a "underworld". Because our face is affected by various factors, in reality we will also find that some people are kind-hearted even though they look fierce.

Only by cleaning the psychological shadow can people "be radiant"

A person has long-term anxiety. When the doctor sees it, he will find that the person has an "anxious face." Just by looking at the patient's face, he will know that he is very anxious. Because the patient's long-term anxiety leads to changes in his neurotransmitter concentration, the facial muscles are contracted for a long time, and finally an "anxious face" is formed. From this point of view, the phrase "coming from the heart" has been confirmed.

When facing a depressed patient, the doctor will obviously feel that the person is depressed and lacking in spirit, especially if he is depressed for a long time. Director He said, “During our treatment, for example, through psychotherapy and medication, you will find that the patient’s changes are very obvious. When his depression is cured, you will find that there is really something on his face. A smile from the heart is definitely not a'smile but not a smile'. The contrast between before and after is very obvious."

There is another clinical situation in which facial appearance is not only related to psychological factors but also to physical fitness, and it is affected by many factors. Many drug addicted patients, some patients abuse syrup, and those addicted to drinking syrup, they will develop some acne, pitted face, and a lot of acne on their face. Some patients who abuse methamphetamine will have some obvious stains on their faces.

There are usually two steps in the treatment of drug addiction: the first step is to detoxify, which is simply to expel the drug, which will also cause the concentration of his neurotransmitter to change, thereby achieving a therapeutic effect. The second step is psychotherapy. Let the patient realize that my poison has been discharged, relax, and feel that I can re-behave. From a psychological point of view, it is a psychological suggestion. We found that these patients have also changed a lot after treatment: the acne caused by the abuse of syrup and the flaky spots caused by the abuse of methamphetamine have been greatly improved. We sometimes joked with patients that this is like doing cosmetics, the face becomes smoother.

Getting plastic surgery because of dissatisfaction with my appearance is actually a psychological problem. Therefore, there was a popular slogan at that time, "Plastic surgery first, correct the mind", first adjust the mentality. For example, some people feel insecure when going for plastic surgery. They are afraid that their husband will have an affair if they don't like them. They think that they can keep their husbands and their marriages. This is a manifestation of extreme insecurity. It may really increase her self-confidence after plastic surgery, but this self-confidence is only a flash in the pan, and eventually these problems will be exposed.

So appearance may affect psychology, but there are psychological problems behind it.

Regardless of "coming from the heart" or "from the heart", in the past life, family, school or society always brought us many bumps and bumps, the spring breeze and rain, the autumn breeze, created our state of mind. , It looks like this. How to change? Face up to the face. NLP believes that in the face of unsatisfactory environment, ridicule by others, and so-called "defects" in appearance, you are complaining about the environment and others, making yourself powerless; complaining about your appearance, and therefore A sense of "worthlessness". I still accept myself, let me take the lead, and find a way for it. Of course, the way to find a way is not to try to change the appearance, but to change the EMBA (thoughts, emotions, physical behavior, attitude), and then affect the appearance. Some people say that NLP is also a science of cosmetology, it is for your psychological beauty, from the heart, let you become a more attractive person from the inside out!

Favors are born from your heart, you'd better walk around these 4 types of aspects!

One: the face of lying

The main features of lying face are irregular eyes, thin upper lip, sharp teeth and crooked mouth, etc. The look in the eyes represents a person's heart, and a person who has an uncorrected look must also have an uncorrected heart. This kind of people love to work at ease, habitually lie to others, and often use all means to deceive others for their own selfish desires. They are indifferent and ruthless by nature. Although on the surface they often smile at you and make people feel very peaceful and polite, but behind them they will often do everything possible to make you suffer.

Two: the face of calculation

The main features of the calculation of the eyes are as follows: the tail of the eyebrows is scattered, the eyes are squinted, the cheekbones, and the transverse protrusion of the cheekbones. When there is no expression, their eyes are not unusual, but when making expressions, their eyes are not the same size, and their eyebrows are also uneven. This kind of people have deep thoughts and often deliberately hide their thoughts, fearing that they will be seen through by others, and always like to use rhetoric to gain the trust of others. Your inadvertent words and deeds will easily make him remember and hate you from now on, and they will retaliate against you whenever they have the opportunity.

Three: the face of love complaining

The face of complaining is mainly manifested in a person's low eyebrows, triangular eyes, and easily flustered expressions. Such people generally lack moral limits, are naturally jealous, and like to make small reports with leaders to get some benefits. However, they are extroverts who have excellent social skills, and they don't forget to report some gossip while being courteous. They are also a type of person that superior leaders prefer. But because they are narrow-minded and jealous, they may be untrustworthy, so they will have fewer close friends in their lives.

Four: cruel face

The face of a complaint is mainly manifested in a person's eyes are concave inward, the nose is pointed and thin, and the eyes are erratic. Most of them are narrow-minded and admire vanity. In order to obtain certain things, they tend to forget their own interests and try every means to get them. If you accidentally provoke them, they will definitely not show any traces on the spot, and they will carefully arrange them afterwards, try every means to make you unhappy, and use every means to retaliate against you.

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